Child-Free? What’s wrong with you?

There are a lot of mom bloggers out there. So many things gear to the stay-at-home mom or working mom. While I do have the utmost respect for the moms out there, what is the harm in choosing to be child-free? I made that choice a long time ago. And I’ve taken flack for it too! Why is it so hard for some people to understand that there are some like us out there? What is wrong with making that choice? Absolutely nothing. Also, it’s not really anyone’s business to question that choice. That’s exactly why I felt the need to write about it.

 

 

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First of all, how do you know I made the choice? How do you know I didn’t try and fail? How do you know I didn’t lose a child? While none of those apply to me, it’s still not ok to stick your nose in other people’s personal business! When did that become ok? I knew from quite a young age that having kids didn’t really appeal to me. When my mom would repeatedly ask “when am I getting a grandchild?”, I simply reminded her to discuss that with my brother. (Thank goodness he answered that one for her 16 years ago!) She finally realized somewhere in my 20s she wasn’t going to get any from me, so thankfully she gave that question up. I didn’t have to constantly remind her that I was making the choice to be child-free!

 

 

Maybe it was years of bad babysitting or being spoiled as an “only child”. I just knew that I had no interest in becoming a mom. Even when I got into my later years, I still didn’t have interest. As I started dating I was constantly asked how many kids I wanted. My answer to that was most often the cue to whether or not that relationship was going any further. Still, I’d get questioned by my family and friends. “When are you having kids?” Why don’t you want any kids?” Ugh… why was child-free so frowned upon?

 

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Fast forward through several failed relationships, and yes, even a couple of them had children already. My husband has a daughter, and I’m so fortunate that she is a wonderful child. No, she doesn’t live with us full time, but when she’s visiting, it’s fantastic. And now instead of asking when I’m having them, I get the “why don’t you have any children?” question. Ok again, why is this any of your business, especially when you don’t know me that well? I’ve had strangers ask me at parties, and it really drives me crazy! I chose this lifestyle because I could! And I really get miffed when people make assumptions that I’m not worthy because I’m living child-free! Instead of lashing out, I generally just respond with “I do have children, they just have 4 legs instead of 2”.

 

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Biggest Mistakes Direct Sales Marketers Make

There are certainly a lot of different ways to hustle some extra money these days.  Direct Sales seem to be at the top of many lists. However, thinking you can simply sign up and money will come flowing in is one of the biggest mistakes many of them make. I am an Independent Distributor for It Works Global. Yes, I’ve made my share of mistakes, and I’m here to share some of them with you. No matter what your direct sales company is, hopefully, these tips will help you!

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Not stepping outside of your comfort zone.

Sure, you have lots of friends on various social media platforms. Thinking you can strike it big by only going through them is one of the first mistakes DS people tend to make. Network Sales are tough, and you really don’t want to pester your friends and families with the information so much. Trust me, they’ll get really tired of hearing about that crazy wrap thing, or your awesome lip color. So reach out. It is NETWORK selling for a reason. Go out and build a network. Step out of your comfort zone. Go out and blitz in public. Reach out online in other areas you aren’t currently saturating. Find people that share your interests, then reach out. Make a connection. Be real, and be amazed at how much better you will become. You’ll also end up making some new friends along the way!

Don’t make false claims.

This should really be a no-brainer. But please don’t make the mistake of telling prospects things that simply cannot be backed up. No, the skinny wrap will not make you drop 20 lbs and 10 inches with the first application. Nope, you can’t eat all you want and sit on your butt all day and expect to drop weight, it’s that simple. No, your wrinkles will not disappear after the first application of this product. Get the picture? Instead of using false claims, why not share the information they need. Remind them results vary with every body. Everyone will have different results. Share the good parts, and leave the fluff out.

 If you don’t love it, don’t sell it.

Period. If you’ve never tried it, please don’t think you can sell it. Be a customer first before diving into Network Sales. Please don’t just see something that looks cool and think you can make a ton of money selling it. I hope I don’t need to include this one, but I have seen it happen way more often than it should. If I were a vegan, I wouldn’t be selling Omaha Steaks. People will see right through you that way, trust me. No one wants to be lied to, remember? See the point above.

Do not give up!

This is probably one of the first mistakes made. You get one or 2 “nos” and decide you just can’t do it. Guess what? Nothing in this world is instantaneous. If you are looking for instant gratification, perhaps you should rethink your pursual of money making. Did you say yes the first time? Probably not, right? I know I didn’t. But I love the products, and I continue to use them while I am working as an Independent Distributor. Have I had my fair share of “no thank yous”? Ummm, yes. Plenty. I am not giving up, and I know bigger things are still to come.  Make sure to surround yourself with a great team. Keep pushing your limits and following your dreams. With that, you can do anything you put your mind to!

 

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12 Smartphone Apps I Can’t Live Without

Our smartphones have truly changed our lives. Does anyone even remember when phones were just for calling people? I think my dad is the only person around who still feels that way! We rely on them for so much more than that now. I’ve decided to share with you some of my absolute favorite apps. I am certain I’m not the only one who lives with my phone in my hand. Maybe you know of and use all of these already. Or maybe you’ll find some new ones to try!

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News/Sports/Weather Apps:

    • Fox News App – I tend to stick with Fox for my news. They just seem to be the most balanced of the big networks, in my opinion of course. I can turn the alerts on or off and stream live video from it. It’s simple and to the point, which is one of the reasons I like this one over some other apps.
    • Flipboard – When I finally moved over to Android from Apple, this came pre-installed on my first phone. I wasn’t too sure about it until I looked into it a bit more. I love that you can add topics and really personalize it around what you want to see.
    • ESPN Scorecenter – Since I AM a lover of sports, and I’m not local to my favorite teams, this app comes in handy! I can check in on schedules, scores, news, etc. I can even “watch” GameCast play by play on some games.
    • The Weather Channel – While this one is not necessarily on of my favorites, I do need my weather app! I actually have the widget on my home screen. I check this app multiple times a day, not only for local weather but other places too.

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Reference/Utility Apps:

  •  Evernote – I’m surprised I haven’t had this longer. I just found out about it a few months ago. This little app is a lifesaver! It’s great for jotting down ideas, making lists, and so much more. I love that I can sync it with my laptop too!
  • Whitepages – For some reason, I have been getting a lot of SPAM calls lately. I have pretty much given up answering any number I don’t recognize, and this app helps me determine if it’s a valid call or not.
  • Dictionary.com – My favorite little thing about this app is the word of the day notification I get each morning. There is an option to listen to the words if you are unfamiliar with the pronunciation. I also use it to look up alternate words from time to time.
  • IMDb – I am a sucker for seeing someone on TV or in a movie and trying to remember where I’ve seen them before. This app is great for that, but also for looking up other film/television things.
  • iPeriod – Let’s face it, I’m not always on the ball with remembering that special time. This app helps me track it, and can even set up notifications to let you know when it’s a few days out. No one likes to find it out the hard way, am I right ladies?

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Money/Shopping Apps:

  • ibotta – This app is awesome. If you aren’t using yet, click and sign up. It’s super easy and payments go right into Paypal. I’ve had it for a few years, but only recently started using it more and more. You browse available rebates, click to add them to your list, buy the item, scan the barcode and receipt and the money is yours! It’s awesome to get cash back on things I’m already buying, and I love this app for that reason.
  • Walmart – Living in a small rural town, this is the only “grocery” store we have unless we drive to the next town. So it’s primarily where we do most of our shopping. The Savings Catcher part of this app has been great. All you do is scan your receipt, then wait. It searches nearby “competitors” and will refund you the difference if it finds a lower price. You can then load it onto an e-gift card, and you’re all set!
  • Swagbucks – I can’t preach enough about SB! I have 3 different SB apps on my phone, and I love that I can earn just by letting the videos play on the watch app. I can take surveys on the go, even online shopping to earn cash back. All by just going through the app. I’ve posted about Swagbucks before, and I really did pay for the holidays this year by using it!
  •  Retail Me Not – I use this one pretty often when I’m searching coupons. I love that I can use it in-store, and online. They usually have something for almost anything you’re looking for! I’ve managed to save some good money using the coupons from here. I am all for a good deal whenever I can get one!

 

Photography Apps:

Of course, I need photo apps for all the social media sharing out there, right? And there are a TON, but I’ve narrowed it down to a few of my faves, only wishing Canva would hurry up with their Android version!

  • Prisma – I simply love this app. It makes your photos turn into paintings. There are so many filters and you can dial them back as much as you want. You will end up with absolutely gorgeous photos.
  • Aviary – This is one of my favorites for straight up editing. It’s simple to use, has great filters, and produces some great pictures. I’ve been using it for quite a while, and I still seem to end up going back to it, even after I’ve tried others.
  • WordSwag – This is one of the few apps I’ve paid for. I tend to stick to the freebies. However, I do like this one for its layouts, fonts, and cool features. Not only can you make your fancy quotes and such, it will show you the “Twitter preview” area in the square template you’re probably using for Instagram!

There are many more apps than that out there. Certainly, I have more on my phone as well. I left out the basics, (all the social media ones, etc). These are some of my favorites that I use more often than any others, except those darn social media ones!

What apps are you loving right now? I’d love to hear about them in the comments?

 

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Cut The Clutter – Closet Edition

A while back I wrote a post on a 30 – day minimalist challenge I was doing. A friend of mine posted it, and I was a bit skeptical at first. Looking around my house, however, I knew I needed to cut some clutter in a big way! How many of us have acquired way more than we will ever need? I’m certain I am not the only one, so that’s why I decided to share. I have decided to do a small series of ways to cut clutter out of your life, starting with your wardrobe. For me, that was the best place to start that challenge, even though I managed some from other rooms as well. How many of you can stand to clear some clutter from your wardrobe?

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The first step in the clearing the closet is figuring out what to do with all the stuff you let go! I get it, trust me. There are certainly going to be things still in good condition. Do you toss them? Donate them? Sell them? There are plenty of options, but there are also things to consider. I don’t condemn thrift stores. As a matter of fact, I visit them often. But I’m not going to buy tattered pieces of garbage, no matter how much of a deal. With that in mind, I hope this post gives you some ideas!

 

Step 1:

Throw away everything you own that isn’t LuLaroe.

Ok no, I’m kidding. I am slightly obsessed with LLR if you haven’t figured that out yet. But don’t do that. Seriously, just don’t. For as amazing as their stuff is, it simply can’t replace everything you own. And the point of cutting the clutter is not adding more in its place. If you don’t have any yet, yes, you are missing out, but hold off until you get to a place where you can add. Get rid of stuff and make an impact!

Now seriously…

Clutter in Intimates Drawers:

I hate to state the obvious but… No one wants your old undies, socks, etc. Don’t even consider it! I will make one exception, and one only. If you are anywhere near a Soma Intimates, check them out. Twice a year they accept GENTLY WORN bras only. They donate them to local battered women’s shelters. I think that is a wonderful thing. I can absolutely vouch for the validity of that since I was the manager of a store for almost 2 years. Anything else, just toss them in the trash. Maybe make old sock monkeys for your dogs to chew on, whatever. Just don’t try to donate OR sell skivvies, ok?!

Jeans and/or other bottoms:

Ok, listen up. Holding onto that pair of jeans that used to fit you 10 years ago might SEEM like motivation. Seriously, though, even if they did fit you again, would they even be in style? Acid washed jeans went out a long time ago, remember? And of course, if they are already frayed at the bottom, or have little holes started, that is only going to get worse. The nice thing about jeans, (some skirts and other pants too), is that you can almost always donate them. And hey, if they are hot ticket items, you can always try eBay or Facebook sales! I’ve picked up some extra cash doing that with lots of clothes.

 

T-Shirts/other tops:

Not including seasonal things such as sweaters, most t-shirts can just be tossed. Maybe make them into cleaning rags, or simply throw them away. I tend to go through them frequently, and they don’t last forever. Other tops like sweaters, work shirts, etc can be saved. Similar to jeans, why not donate, or try to sell? Since I spent far too many years in retail management, I aquired way more clothing and shoes than any one person probably needs. I have been lucky to have made a bit of extra cash selling the gently worn items!

Outerwear:

I tend to hold on to my outerwear longer than I probably need to. Since it doesn’t see the same amount of wear as other things, it can last a bit longer. And of course, having more than 1 type is necessary, but no one needs a million different jackets, coats, etc.

 

As for seasonal items, or specific things bought for special occasions, those can most likely be thinned out as well. Seriously, how many formal dressed do you need? I guess it would depend on your lifestyle, but keep in mind what you can sell or donate. Make some extra money or give them to people who need them more than you!