There are a lot of mom bloggers out there. So many things gear to the stay-at-home mom or working mom. While I do have the utmost respect for the moms out there, what is the harm in choosing to be child-free? I made that choice a long time ago. And I’ve taken flack for it too! Why is it so hard for some people to understand that there are some like us out there? What is wrong with making that choice? Absolutely nothing. Also, it’s not really anyone’s business to question that choice. That’s exactly why I felt the need to write about it.
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First of all, how do you know I made the choice? How do you know I didn’t try and fail? How do you know I didn’t lose a child? While none of those apply to me, it’s still not ok to stick your nose in other people’s personal business! When did that become ok? I knew from quite a young age that having kids didn’t really appeal to me. When my mom would repeatedly ask “when am I getting a grandchild?”, I simply reminded her to discuss that with my brother. (Thank goodness he answered that one for her 16 years ago!) She finally realized somewhere in my 20s she wasn’t going to get any from me, so thankfully she gave that question up. I didn’t have to constantly remind her that I was making the choice to be child-free!
Maybe it was years of bad babysitting or being spoiled as an “only child”. I just knew that I had no interest in becoming a mom. Even when I got into my later years, I still didn’t have interest. As I started dating I was constantly asked how many kids I wanted. My answer to that was most often the cue to whether or not that relationship was going any further. Still, I’d get questioned by my family and friends. “When are you having kids?” Why don’t you want any kids?” Ugh… why was child-free so frowned upon?
Fast forward through several failed relationships, and yes, even a couple of them had children already. My husband has a daughter, and I’m so fortunate that she is a wonderful child. No, she doesn’t live with us full time, but when she’s visiting, it’s fantastic. And now instead of asking when I’m having them, I get the “why don’t you have any children?” question. Ok again, why is this any of your business, especially when you don’t know me that well? I’ve had strangers ask me at parties, and it really drives me crazy! I chose this lifestyle because I could! And I really get miffed when people make assumptions that I’m not worthy because I’m living child-free! Instead of lashing out, I generally just respond with “I do have children, they just have 4 legs instead of 2”.